Have you ever been chasing someone or something but find that someone else is willing to step up better than you, more than you, without ever taking a day off? If you think about it, if there's someone else willing to go forward at a steady pace with gusto; chances are the object of your time and affection is noticing too. That's not to suggest that the one working so hard gets the prize. Conversing with a much younger group of friends I observed that so many were either going out of their way to impress either their boss, potential partner, even platonic friends. I asked how the sucking up was working and if any of them are capable of taking a day off from it. After a lot of laughter over self awareness and validating why it's being done, there was some truth talk about not being able to keep it up as much as others. Most everyone wants to do their best and be recognized for it so I don't find it an unusual or inappropriate act, just something I observed that made my thoughts wander. Do I compare those that try to impress me on a consistent basis to those who do their best under different circumstances such as availability? Do people share the work I give evenly, or are there a couple people who are looking for recommendations and doing all of the work individually as if that will be the determining factor? What about in a personal life? If someone is wanting a relationship do they maintain their quest and build one or do they have peaks and valleys that aren't consistent? Do you think the ability to hunt, ability to be loyal, etc factors in to the decisions you make choosing one person over the other? Have you won and realized it wasn't worth fighting for? Just a discussion that's being thrown out there.
Feel free to share your story about this.
Savannah Jones 2012
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ReplyDeleteI'm not dating anyone and need that to be clear because that's what makes this wierd. One guy I know impreses me all of the time. Another guy tha I want to have impress me doesn't. He says he's interested but it looks like he's waiting on me to make all of the moves. I don't want to make moves. I want to be wooed. I don't think as a woman that's asking much. I don't date because I haven't been wooed on a consistant basis. daily is what I mean by consistant. I don't think I'm asking much but correct me men if I am.
I am a person that works under a leader in my place of work. I try everyday to impress this leader because this person has a direct line to my boss. It works when I do it and burns me when I didn't. I get it and think I stay ahead because I do everything I can to get noticed and I do. I feel if I didn't I wouldn't.
ReplyDeleteI don't take a day off of trying to win a woman over. The guy I'm in competition with has the upper hand by proximity. I have it by having time and I speak to the woman daily by some form of communication so she knows I think of her. He doesn't call her daily/nightly to keep up with her life. Her life changes on a dime. When he's off on his game, I feel I've won. When he's on his game, I"m not so sure unless I establish plans at least a day ahead. She once said he doesn't understand that her life changed and that makes her change. I've seen the change and she wants to know what lies ahead in her day.
ReplyDeleteI"m sharing but how do I win? Savannah, How will I know if I can win?
I also forgot to ask you this since you are a woman. I wrote in about how will I know if I can win? How will I know if I can't or how to?
ReplyDeleteSavannah,
ReplyDeleteOne of your book suggestions is the gift of fear. I read it and it had a lot of great advice. Thanks for recommending it.