Take a moment and think...What parts of your life do you wish you could erase? There I was preparing for a meeting and needing a clean board to work with. All week my board was covered with agendas, schedules, and data that had been outlined in red, purple, and blue. One of my dear coworkers arrived early and we talked about paying the price for trying to shake things up by using deep colors. Well, the metaphors started rolling - If I had just kept to the standard and used a black marker against the white board; clean up would have been simple. By adding a little personality and flare the clean up became murky just like life. My colleague began discussing her marriage and how easy it was when everything was black and white and now that there's a more interesting life it has actually become difficult to keep it going - she's exhausted. I used the magic cleaner (window cleaner) and voila! The marker disappeared. I looked at my disillusioned coworker and said, " Just spray, wipe and problem solved." I used my glamour hand and pointed to the clean slate as if I was Picasso and could create a whole new picture. A high school helper stopped in and had to add her two cents worth. She seemed disappointed that I was able to start over - She said, "Now I have no idea where you were and what you were working on that led you to here." There was a dead silence followed by my sweet peer's laughter. I turned back to the board and began creating in silence but all the while thinking, I liked my clean slate and that's that. Actually, I am a big believer that we are the sum of our experiences since they shape us by giving us strength, courage, hope, and even reality checks. However, every now and then a little window cleaner to erase the mess and see through to the sunshine isn't a bad idea.
© 2011 Savannah Jones
Savannah,
ReplyDeleteYou have a way of making me see the world differently. I would like to forget many parts of my life since my marriage ended. I am stronger than I've ever been and I don't think of it like this but it's true and I do get involved with people in a way that is different than before. I stay home more and I am okay with it. I'm often alone finding myself and I'm okay with it too. I'm a regular and noticed that your copyright year needs to be updated.
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ReplyDeleteGlad I could help. Thank you for pointing out the change needed. I completely forgot to change it.
Savannah Jones
Here's what I see as a problem. Men want to know what you've lived, how you and the ex get along, how much financial problem you have and/or your ex has, and all of your struggles that led you to your beliefs today AND THEN the men don't like the possibilities of a problem with the ex, the men don't like that the woman went into debt during and after the divorce, the men don't like the issues that made you who you are today in other words. A woman is almost forced to sugar coat their life. If someone came in and saw my board of life somewhat cleaned I'd never have a date.
ReplyDeleteI want to erase the memories that hurt so much but I think those memories did make me more jaded about people and more mindful of my own choices and reprocussions. It is funny to think some everyday activities make us reflect on our own life.
ReplyDeleteHappy new year...first time of commenting i believe but been following for a while..sure, there are some memories i would like to erase but the brain have a funny way of bringing it up when you least expect!
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Ibhade,
ReplyDeleteI love your site...I have visited often and like to keep up with it.
Happy New Year! The brain does work in mysterious ways.
Savannah Jones
I had a loving relationship with a woman for many years. I know I had competition but she only wanted me. I know that now but was jealous back then and lost her. I wouldn't want to erase the relationship from memory but I'd like to erase the jealousy but I can't shake it when I'm with her. I would feel lucky to be with her and proud. It would make me think -- who wouldn't want to be with her and the guy is probably able to offer her more than me.
ReplyDeletePutting it out there about erasing is causing me and my own coworkers to be very honest about our lives. Our comments are so telling about our own marriages.
ReplyDeleteSavannah,
ReplyDeleteI'd erase the hurtful words that cost me my relationship. What was done to me in my marriage I did to someone else. It didn't feel good to do but if you don't get caught you don't feel that pain until you're caught and hear the words that your relationship is over even when you didn't want it to be but acted like you did. I'd like to erase all of it. I've moved on in the past years but look back and know she was the best match for me and I can't get it back. She made sure to play this out so she wouldn't need an eraser. She used to tell me she won't do anything wrong in the relationship but not because of her love for me but for her own self love. She didn't want to live with regret. Something I think I should follow.