How do you connect with the one you love...do you connect with the one you love? Do you put yourself out there but get left hanging wondering what is it going to take? Since Lets Talk Over Latte got started, I've had many ask me why I think they can't connect to someone and keep it that way, why they feel connected but it doesn't last, and how to break through a past that's still connected while wanting a future with someone else? So, this one is for you to answer...lend your insight.
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I wouldn't say I'm left hanging but I do feel left out. Advice from anyone would be nice. I've been with a woman for almost a year but she's more connected to the other men in her life than me. I like spending time with her and want more. One day I'll get that but how to connect is something I need advice about.
Connecting is something a woman wants to do in the other post with a neighbor. I don't think I could date my neighbor because if it didn't work out I would have to watch the other women go to his house and I wouldn't like it. I've thought about it in my apartment complex with a couple of guys but it leads to stalker like behavior.
I'm more connected to a woman I used to date than I am the woman I currently date. I think she feels the same way (used to date woman) I know her and I'm into the same beliefs and interests she is. I accept that it's over but miss her terribly. We were extremely sexually compatable and I miss that too. I could have her at any moment and time and would. She was always open to being intimate. I hear she's not that way now but is opening up to be and that's another reason why I might try and take her back. I can't connect as deeply. My ex wife says that I am connected to this other woman and should try and work it out. My ex girlfriend would probably not take me back.
I like the question the way you ask it. You aren't assuming because I'm in love with a man for years that we connect. We don't and I would like advice on it.
Lending my insight on this comment. Savannah, you probably know this but sometimes it's not about what we say but something we do like reading a certain book, or joining a club. It makes someone notice a common interest and makes a person connect. I love a woman and we do feel connected but we both did things that made it difficult to move our relationship forward. We are still very connected and I like the man she dates now but the more this guy takes time and eventually builds a romance, the less she'll need me.
My friend feels connected to a person who is dead. I can't explain it but when she's around people who believe in the dead reaching out she becomes drawn to them - leaves me out when it happens. I don't have this belief and I can't be swayed to believe. I lose her to this each time it happens. I see her around these other people and long for that feeling.
I connect with people all day and it makes a difference in how my day goes but can't get the nerve to talk to me about what is on his mind. I don't get it. We could be really getting together and making things really intimate and close but he doesn't make it happen. He's the guy and I'm a woman who needs to hear it.
Today is Saturday and I'm at Starbucks thinking about your last article. There's a feeling like the tv show Cheers where norm comes in and everyone knows your name. I do think about my day to day connections and miss my old boyfriend and the connections we had. I long for that relationship and wonder why men are quick to settle for less with me than what I know a relationship can be and can feel. Just sharing not looking for advice.
What if you don't want to connect with anyone else just your ex husband. He hasn't really moved on and neither have I. I don't think there's anyone else out there in this world who will know me like my ex husband. It makes life easy. He hasn't married or even dated anyone more than four months.
I'm in a relationship with a man many years older than I am. I have never been this in love and felt so understood. I still can't wait to be with him and he disagrees with how my ex is so we agree on many levels. My kids told me that my ex makes comments and laughs about the age difference. I want to call my ex and tell him that he has no understanding of a relationship where two people are on the same page and understand each other's feelings. We have many interests in common and enjoy doing activities together. I like being in the same room as this man and after awhile couldn't stand the sight of my ex. He was passive aggressive and unsure of himself so much that it was on a pathetic level. Yes the man is older and I fell in love with him. I probably could date other people but this one understands me and I feel a soul connection. I'm venting in this small square space but I have theories about why my ex is like this but what else could it be?
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