Okay...could you do it...

Topic of discussion... The question from the post before...Could you have a "fling" with a younger man and I'm talking 15 to 20 years younger? Men, I know it's more in style for you to do this but I have some questions about it. The first thing a few of us older women talked about was how aware of our bodies we'd become. How we'd have to be in great shape to even consider this. I mentioned that I wouldn't feel right because in some sense I could be a younger man's mom and that just became a disgusting thought in my head. But then our attention turned to the young men who said that they find us attractive and don't see our bodies the way we do. Thank god but really I don't buy it...the guy would need blinders or has really poor vision. Or quiet possibly doesn't know I'm being held together by plastic surgery and shapewear. I know I look somewhat younger than my age when I cover the gray and see my Botox buddy so I have been looked at before and asked out by younger men. When I tell them my age there's this look like they just came out of a horror movie so I have a hard time seeing that these men really do want these older women. I don't have a pot full of gold so there's no rainbow to anything waiting for them. Ahh but men, let's see...how come these older men don't worry what their bodies look like to these young women? Sometimes the more gray hair the more attracted these women become. I have never had the experience of being one of these much younger women so I don't know the little intricacies of dating an older man. If he's successful, I can understand the power turn on. If he's got time to spare, I can understand having someone who is available to be with you and travel. If he's got money, I can see some women finding that a plus and a turn on as well. Is it enough to get you beyond the aging process? Can someone love you so much that you can look past the decline in the body as it ages and see it all as a process but not a barricade to love? Can you really stay interested and involved in one another when the age difference is so great and we want different things at different ages? I work with a handsome young man who misjudged my age. I noticed that he was talking to me about many things I'm interested in. His age isn't a hindrance to what he knows and explores in his free time. He said he has never connected to someone his own age. Once he learned of my chronological age, he took a step back and I said, " So you do have a stopping point?" We laughed and he said the step back was out of surprise not disgust...he has to say this, he works with me.



What's your viewpoint on this? Have you ever considered this type of relationship or are currently in one? Please share what you think...